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From Experimentation to Addiction: A Young Man's Story of Recovery

Editor's note: This story was posted at 11:25 p.m. Feb. 18, 2014.

Mark Feliciano started dabbling with opiates when he was about 15 years old. The moment he decided he would never get high again came five years later. At that point, his drug use was no longer experimental—he was addicted to heroin.

After three arrests and a couple of failed attempts to get clean, Feliciano was on probation. He was standing before a judge and he had just come up dirty on a drug test.

"His exact words were, if you (expletive) up one more time, I'm sending you to prison for two-and-a-half years," Feliciano said of that pivotal court appearance. "It was at that moment, that exact moment, I said, 'I'm done.' Since that day I haven't touched a drug. I just knew it wasn't worth my freedom. I couldn’t spend two-and-a-half years in prison. Jan. 12, 2011, is the last day I got high."

Fast-forward to today and the 23-year-old Mahopac resident is in a good place. He described his life as steady—he works for Southeast-based Sheet Metal Workers Local Union 38, he has a girlfriend, he is saving money and he has renewed the friendships he lost over drugs. He and his mother are closer than ever.

He does not regret a thing. He is confident he will never slip up because he "already knows" what hard drugs do to a person's life.

"I've had really bad days sober, but even my worst day sober was better than my best day high," he said.

Feliciano remembers the first time he tried heroin like it was yesterday. He had just entered his senior year at Mahopac High School. That day, he and a few friends could not get any Oxycodone, which they had been using for months. They were going through withdrawal.

"We were miserable," Feliciano said.

When an acquaintance stopped by and pulled out some "diesel," they thought he meant marijuana. Learning it was actually heroin, the teens hesitated, then gave it some consideration.

"I looked at my buddy, and I was like 'I don't know about that. I don't know. That's the one thing I said I would never touch,'" he recalled. "And at this point I was sick. I really was not feeling good at all ... So we decided to do it. We split a bag."

Once he snorted heroin, Feliciano knew he would not be stopping anytime soon, even though it scared him to think of what the drug could be "cut," or mixed, with.

The high was euphoric and similar to other opiates, except more intense. Plus, it was available and cheap—two beginners could get high off a $15-stash.

Before heroin, he was taking about eight 80-milligram Oxycodone pills, at $50 or $60 a pop, daily.

It all started with Vicodin. At 15, Feliciano was already smoking weed and drinking alcohol. He wasn't bored, per se, just "maybe looking for something more." He spotted the drug in a relative's medicine cabinet, did some research and gave it a try with a few friends.

It was not a good experience. He threw up.

The next time was different. He was alone at home after school, and his mother was at work for a few more hours. Once he swallowed the pills, he felt relaxed and mellow.

Feliciano took three pills to get that high. From there he took more and more, until he hit 15 or 20 a day, and started coughing up blood. His stomach was killing him and he wanted something different. That's when he transitioned to Oxycodone.

As Feliciano moved from one drug to another, he built up a tolerance. And he composed himself well, he said, so family members and school staff didn't notice anything wrong, even though he was getting high right under their noses.

"Once you start getting addicted, it's not so much you're messed up anymore," he said. "You need it to function, you need it to not get sick. Getting high is obviously the bonus, but the main reason you're doing it is you don’t want to get sick."

Getting "sick" is something Feliciano knows all too well.

"You start feeling it in your bones almost. You start getting sweaty. It’s the worst feeling in the world and I wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy."

He had that sick feeling at times when he was using in high school and after, but the worst was when he was withdrawing in jail. Feliciano was arrested in 2009 and 2010.

The first arrest came after he knew he had a problem and he tried to get clean. He visited what he described as a "Suboxone doctor," who was "in it for the money," in White Plains.

Suboxone is a prescription drug used to treat opiate dependence. It wasn't enough for Feliciano, and his desire to get off drugs was not yet a match for his addiction. Looking back, Feliciano knows he was not ready to get clean. He liked the ritual of doing drugs, and the lifestyle, too much.

When he was arrested later that year, police had him for selling to a confidential informant. That felony distribution charge was reduced to a misdemeanor and he got out on probation.

"At this point I was too into it," he said. "Nothing really mattered. I wasn’t afraid to die. It didn’t really faze me. The drug was just so much greater than that, that was the big picture ... My job was just to buy and sell, buy and sell, buy and sell. I didn’t need money. I didn't eat. I didn’t shower. I didn’t buy clothes. Every dollar went to it. If I was starving and sick and I had a dollar, it went to drugs."

At his worst, the 5'10 man weighed 140 pounds. He has since gained about 45. He never overdosed, but came "pretty damn close."

In March 2010, Feliciano was arrested again. He had just shot up in his car and was getting ready to deliver the dope to his buyers—mostly young guys, plus a few young women and a couple of middle-aged men living with their families—when he heard, "Hands up! Don't move!" Half a dozen cops surrounded him.

That first night in jail was fine because he was "high as a kite." When he woke up the next morning and remembered where he was, he lost it. He felt withdrawals coming on. He called his mother. She told him she was not bailing him out this time. 

The next few days were brutal: Constant vomiting, diarrhea, restless legs and the sweats.

"Your body is drained, but your mind is wide awake," he said. "You can go four or five days with no sleep at all. You can't eat at all."

He knew that in jail he would not get any help in the form of medication, so he faked a seizure for a trip to the hospital and the chance of a dose of something that would ease the discomfort.

After about a week and a half, the withdrawal was over, and he was able to get a couple hours of rest nightly. He was scheduled to be released shortly thereafter. But on his way out, he was stopped and arrested again. The felony charge this time was for a deal that occurred about a month and a half earlier. 

"I called my mother and told her I'm not leaving," he said. "She thought I was joking. I told her I got rearrested on different charges. She was hysterical."

Lucky for Feliciano, the judge he was arraigned before showed "some compassion" and released him on his own recognizance. A few days later he was at St. Christopher's Inn in Cold Spring, where he stayed in treatment for three months on his own accord. He wanted to get clean, but he was doing it more so it would look good against the charges.

Still, when his time there was up, he felt good.

"I loved it. It took about a month but you learned you didn’t need it. I really didn’t think about it, I thought that was it. I thought I found God. After I got out I was going to a sober house on Long Island. I thought after that I'd come back home and get a job."

The very first night at the sober house, Feliciano learned sobriety was not enforced. It was Halloween, the house manager was nowhere in sight, and a few of the people already living there were drinking.

When Feliciano showed reluctance, they pointed out he was a drug addict, not an alcoholic, so why shouldn't he partake? After a few drinks, someone offered K2, a synthetic that produces an effect similar to marijuana's. He smoked some, and ended up taking half a Suboxone. 

"That night turned into a nightmare," he said. "After that I was on a tear again. I was on the run again."

Feliciano went on existing like that for a few months, scamming people and scoring heroin. He moved back to Mahopac just before Christmas 2010 and was assigned a new probation officer as he proceeded through drug court, which involves therapy treatment and is an alternative to time behind bars.

Still using, Feliciano had gotten around most drug tests at this point. But the new probation officer tested him the first day he walked in. And with that he was back before a judge, hearing about his last chance and headed for a 30-day stint in rehab. 

These days, Feliciano does not struggle to stay clean, although some of his friends still do. He never dreamed he would be addicted to drugs, but he has no shame in his story.

Most people are very surprised by it. The general perception, he said, is that heroin addicts are just "the lowest of the low, dirt."

"These kids, they weren't always heroin addicts. They have families that care about them, they used to go to school and they used to have lives, friends, and everything else. But once you get trapped in that cycle, you're done. You're done. And unfortunately, a lot of people don't make it out."

The heroin epidemic has claimed plenty of lives in the region. A 25-year-old Mahopac man died of an overdose in October 2013, after a handful of heroin-related deaths were reported some months earlier. Just last month three Westchester men died of suspected overdoses.

The stories are the same near and far—from Long Island and New York City to Hudson, Wisconsin, a town of 13,000 that has seen seven fatal heroin overdoses in eight months, according to the New York Times.

In Feliciano's experience, parents and family members can only do so much. That means making sure young people are aware of the consequences of drugs, while realizing that some are still going to experiment.

Once a person becomes an addict, things change.

"When they're in that bad of shape, the best thing you can do, I think, in my opinion, is to get them arrested," he said. "You could talk and talk all you want, it's going to go in one ear and right out the other. You could talk until you're blue in the face. You could cry. I've had it done to me. My mom, my dad, my grandfather, everybody. Friends crying, begging me to stop. 'Yeah, yeah, yeah, I am, I am.' And you go right back."

Feliciano has reached out to local schools in the hopes of sharing his lesson with young students. He is unable to pinpoint the exact reason he tried opiates, but he wonders whether he would have been less inclined to experiment if he had heard from an addict who was just a few years older.

Today, Feliciano said there is simply "no way to explain" how good he feels.

"Everything is just perfect in my life right now."

He knows now addiction is a powerful disease, however, he believes a person's mindset also plays a big role in getting off drugs.

"With everybody, it's different," he said. "Some people, their best friend dies and they get clean. Some people they get arrested, they don't want to face the consequences and they get clean. Some people just wake up one day and get clean. And some people die. It will never stop, it's only getting worse and it'll always be around. It's never going to not be around."


ericaitzkowitz February 19, 2014 at 07:49 AM
I am very happy for this recovering addict.. but he is a young white man.. given compassion and another chance. If he were a young black man, he would have been incarcerated, and not given any more chances by the racist judges and prison industrial complex we have here in Westchester and the US. As a white young man, he is celebrated..not a criminal.. a young black man is labeled a "criminal". This attitude and policy must end, the mass incarceration for non violent drug offences must end. Write that article about this disparity in Patch!.
Angel125 February 19, 2014 at 08:16 AM
Why does everything have to be about color ? ericaitzkowitz, I will bet you are not " white "
Peter Sattler February 19, 2014 at 08:26 AM
Mark, Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story with us.
ericaitzkowitz February 19, 2014 at 08:41 AM
yes, I am white, and a white ally to my brothers and sisters of color. If you look closely at this disparity, you will see the injustices of our DA in and prosecutors in Westchester and NY State. Read Michelle Alexanders " The New Jim Crow".... get educated.. Change the system that is not working. Everything still is about color, sadly!!!!!!!
JM February 19, 2014 at 08:51 AM
This is quite a piece and I truly applaud you, Mark (and Ashley for writing it). What stands out to me is the word ''bored.'' Why is any young person in our community, which we are all a part of, ever bored long enough to find and or seek excitement through mind altering substances? And I'm asking this really as a philosophical question -- not something that has to be answered here and now -- that touches our educational system (which, I believe has indeed become totally boring and unchallenging), after school activities, community activities, etc. As an adult of 50, I even see how limited adult community interaction has become in my lifetime, so it seems this is perhaps a greater problem for our young folks, too. Isolation --mental and physical-- is boring. If we can break that, perhaps the desire to escape will wane.
hardtimes February 19, 2014 at 09:10 AM
679,000 junkies in this country,they commit a huge amount of crime to get their heroin.China cleaned up their heroin problem years ago.They gave you a choice to get clean or meet your maker.
Janet Colombo February 19, 2014 at 09:22 AM
Please keep passing your story on. Young people need to know this, not just by ready it, but by meeting and seeing someone who went through it and came through the other side. God Bless you!
Al Boges February 19, 2014 at 10:13 AM
Bless
Tami A. Calvi February 19, 2014 at 10:18 AM
Sharing your journey will help so many addicts and their families. You are taking a painful situation and trying to turn it into a positive by reaching others. Thank you for this. Be well........
Concerned Homeowner February 19, 2014 at 11:18 AM
This story just goes to show you that, jail or the threat of going to jail, had more effect then any rehab did on this young mans life. Good luck. As far as the ignorant, racist comments of Erica, you need to take yourself to the minority communities of Los Angeles, Chicago, Detroit, Atlanta, etc, and tell the "gangstas, playas, and hustlas" (that the hip hop community supports and condones their actions)to stop committing crimes, and then ull see a reduction of minorities in jail.
jeff meyer February 19, 2014 at 11:32 AM
This story is very powerful. All the best to this young man and continued success with his recovery. JM Tuckahoe, NY
JM February 19, 2014 at 12:18 PM
Ironically, I just watched this video filmed when Mark was 15. Take the 19 min. to watch. We educate kids to douse their creativity and abhor making mistakes because they've become an industrial commodity that only a few can actually match. No wonder so many grow bored, fail and seek an escape. http://www.ted.com/talks/ken_robinson_says_schools_kill_creativity.html
Andrea Crane Rabe February 19, 2014 at 12:35 PM
Thanks for sharing, Mark, wishing you continued success with your recovery and the rest of your life
Donna February 19, 2014 at 12:40 PM
I wish you the best! You have earned it. I wish you could go and speak to the 6-8th graders who think that "it's only weed!" and it should be legalized. With states passing laws to legalize marajuana the wrong message is being sent!
Henry Montalto February 19, 2014 at 12:45 PM
I'm glad you found happiness. Remember that in order live a sober you have to help others. You have to give it away to keep it.
Susan Salomone February 19, 2014 at 02:23 PM
Mark thank you for coming out and sharing your story. You are a testament of how easy it is to start, how addictive it is and how easy it is to get. I believe that you are one of the lucky ones and had the ability to stop when you saw the consequences. There are so many others that cannot comprehend the consequences because the drug has such a hold on them. Please go to our website at :www.drugcrisisinourbackyard.com
babypotato February 19, 2014 at 06:38 PM
Congratulations and best wishes to Mark....another element to the drug and crime culture is the fear of being labeled a "rat". I realize this "confidential informant" didn't likely act out of altruistism in helping the police, but if someone had dropped a dime on him earlier all of this could have been avoided. In hindsight, this "rat", saved Mark's life
John F. Moriarty III February 19, 2014 at 08:34 PM
Inspiring story Mark if you are reading these comments please comment me. In addition anyone that lives in Westchester, that realizes there is a problem and wants to help fight it please contact me. John Moriarty
Jeanne Gilholm February 20, 2014 at 08:54 AM
Very best wishes to you Mark. I wish you continued success in staying clean the rest of your life. Your story will help others see the danger in experimentation and what horrors it will certainly lead to.......keep telling your story. God Bless You!
Tom Donovan February 20, 2014 at 01:14 PM
Mark, the picture at the top of this page could have instead been attached to an article describing your death in some drug-related incident, whether due to an overdose or a violent crime. The story could have had a very different ending and you have been given not just a second, but a third chance. I hope that you continue on this new path you're on and look to your past to strengthen both yourself and others in avoiding this self-destructive lifestyle.
Tara Weiss February 20, 2014 at 02:17 PM
Mark, I commend you. Stay strong!! You are a very fortunate young man who was able to fight the demons of addiction. It is important that people realize how a very ignorant and unknowing experimentation can eventually Swallow a life. The progression is animal and the physical demand is intense. It inevitably leads to incarceration or death!! By "giving back" to the youth that you are reaching, you find strength to continue on a positive path!! Maybe by raising awareness more people will realize the severity of this epidemic in our own backyards. God bless you on your new journey!!
Ann Mollica Feliciano February 20, 2014 at 06:09 PM
As Mark's mom, words cannot begin to describe the heartache I went through while Mark was battling these demons. Fortunately he was able to get scared enough to want to stop. Unfortunately, Mark lost many friends to overdoses and he says that as long as there are no consequences people will continue to use. I am so very proud of the young man he has become and the best gift that I can receive every day is his sobriety. I thank God each and every day that things turned out the way they did. Mark hopes to reach out to high schoolers with the intention that if he can share his story with others and prove to them that there is a much more beautiful world outside of drugs, he would be feel honored.
JM February 20, 2014 at 06:55 PM
Kudos to you Anne. Was there support for you and your family in dealing with this from friends/community? I think comments on this story are super. But these are after the fact. Does this community -- all of northern Westchester really -- realize these comments and well wishes only go so far? We need ongoing empowerment off this page, and intervention to improve the future outlook. We need involvement and all of us must work toward creating an environment that engages, excites, gives hope, provides career training to these young folks so that their attention focuses on their future and surviving life independently, not getting high. That is of course too much of a burden for one guy or family. ''WE'' have to find a better way and his story is just part of it. "Don't go down his path" is a great starting point, but what alternatives do we propose? The answer to that proves there is indeed something to search for besides drugs, in my view.
Tara Weiss February 20, 2014 at 10:52 PM
Check out the Jake keonigsdorf foundation..as well www.cfcloudnclear.com if we can unite with these individuals striving to make a difference we can be on some kind of track.
lmcrawford17 February 21, 2014 at 01:36 PM
Mark, Just came across your story and I'm inspired to hear about your experience with St. Christoper's Inn. I live here in Westchester County but work for an inpatient program for drug and alcohol rehab in Pennsylvania called Retreat at Lancaster County. I travel throughout Westchester County and Putnam County taking calls and getting referrals from people looking for treatment who have commercial insurance. For people who have limited funds or no insurance I always recommend St. Christophers Inn. Their program is excellent and I have heard wonderful stories like yours from people who have maintained a life of sobriety and received a good foundation there. I have been working with communities throughout Westchester and Putnam to build awareness of the heroin problem and I am also working with local state and government agencies to offer an alternative for people seeking help with addiction. Shatterproof is also an excellent national agency shatterproof.org that is building awareness in communities and raising money to fight lawmakers to educate, empower and equip parents, families, educators and health providers to address addiction and reducing the stigma, shame and secrecy of those struggling with this disease. I would like an opportunity to chat with you or anyone interested in being part of some of the community outreach projects I am currently working on here in Westchester County. You can find information about my program and contact me on Psychology today by clicking on this website. http://treatment.psychologytoday.com/rms/name/Lisa+Crawford_New+Haven_Connecticut_179137 Thanks so much for sharing your story Mark! I'd like to have you as a guest speaker at one of my events. Lisa
Ann Mollica Feliciano February 21, 2014 at 06:18 PM
Erica, my son, Mark, is Hispanic and while in drug court, there were people of all color and races. Every single person was treated the same by the Judge; there was no favoritism if the person was white or black. Unfortunately, because of the mentality of people such as yourself that continue to think that whites are favored, THIS is the reason why this world cannot move past this. People continue to read it and believe it and practice it. JM, I was fortunate enough to have family and friends to support me while I was going through this with Mark. However, as far as the community goes, there wasn't much available as substance abuse is something that many people either don't want to address, or are ashamed to. When I inquired why you don't hear much talk about having these discussions held at the school, I was told by a professional person that it's because there are many people who use and abuse so why would they want to bring any more attention to this cruel disease. I was absolutely shocked but not surprised by her response. This is the main reason why Mark wants to be able to reach out to others, because of the stigma that is attached to this disease. I did have a lot of support from Putnam Family Drug Court. They were very instrumental and strict in every aspect of the program, and it is because of them, that Mark was kept in line and scared straight. I could only wish that there was a Drug Treatment Court in every County to help rehabilitate those that need it and are willing to follow it every single step of the way. In addition, Mark's probation officers, the Judge, and the wonderful people that worked with Mark in this program all played such important parts in ensuring that Mark was going to succeed in completing the program and his treatment. I commended the one undercover detective when he released Mark to me from jail, and thanked him for saving my son's life. Lisa, St. Christopher's Inn was a Godsend for us. While Mark relapsed when he went to the sober house, St. Christopher's did so much rehabilitation for Mark and I will be forever indebted to them for this. Every single part of the day was structured and there was so much for them to do and engage in, that Mark felt lost at the times when I would have to pick him up and take him, for example, for an eye exam. In terms of the sober houses, that's a totally different story. Mark did so well at St. Christopher's that I never in a million years would have thought he wouldn't succeed in a sober house. It was later that I learned that it is not structured at all and it is very easy for residents to fall through the cracks and relapse as Mark had done. I'm sure it does work for some people but I think those that want to and need to recover will get there by becoming scared straight.
JM February 21, 2014 at 07:46 PM
Anne, I do strongly believe this U.S. culture is about keeping things under wrap. We never focus on solving a particular problem but rather get sidetracked with another. That may even be a bigger problem than racism, in my view. :) At the same age your son started using heroine I was raped. Same issue, really, when it comes to how our society treats our boys (and girls, too.) By the grace of god, I never escaped that memory with drugs 30 odd years ago. But not much has changed since. The ''community'' then and now pretends we are doing right by our kids. With school, primarily. We cherish some idealistic view of overcoming hardship -- during a commercial break. And if we don't move on, well, we are weak, need to be eliminated. So, I'm not surprised by resistance. For to be involved, to deal with the evil influences amongst us (temptation of escape, drug dealers, pedophiles, etc.), we all have to own up, as adults, to every bloody thing going on around us. That simply taxes us beyond what is imaginable today as we also struggle to pay bills and property taxes that equal half our take home pay, fight to keep our job, try to find a better one, keep our own kids safe, many things. We can't do this alone. For what it is worth, I do worry about this relapse issue for your son and others who are sober. It is also why I stated yesterday how these wonderful, loving comments, only go so far. I think we should all understand addiction, just as we should be understanding how kids can be raped. But we don't. I have to believe that if we all got off this page, gathered together, built relationships in person -- committed ourselves to building a stronger community for kids and adults despite our religious and political differences -- think of the men and women who could help Mark and others not relapse and prevent kids from even attempting these drugs in the first place. Anne, if he and/or others relapse, I only blame us all, not him.
Gina Van Nosdall February 23, 2014 at 07:20 AM
You did a brave, great thing here, Mark. How does a local school go about contacting you about sharing your story with its students?
Mark Feliciano February 23, 2014 at 09:32 PM
Thank you to everyone for posting such nice comments and also for the information that is being passed onto me as well. For those wishing to contact me, I would very happy to share my experience with those who are struggling with this disease and even with those who are not, but who might want me to speak at a school or other event. The best and easiest way to contact me is via my email at Mark1152@aol.com. I check my email regularly and will get back to you as soon as possible. Thank you! Mark
nancy granitto February 28, 2014 at 09:28 AM
Inspiring, Keep up the good work,, Nothing good come from being dependent on the DEVIL !!!!!!

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