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Paul Tendler: My Friend, My Hero

A personal tribute to Jawonio's Paul Tendler

 

Dear Editor:

At first he was just the guy who lived across the street from Lynne and me. We waved to each other as we drove out of our respective driveways; just the way neighbors do who are not yet friends. How could I ever know how important his friendship would be to me?

One morning we both joined Goody Katzen for breakfast and I was introduced to Paul’s smile and the twinkle in his eye; I was hooked. Our relationship evolved into a friendship and so much more. 

Paul was my mentor, as he made me aware of people who had challenges that I had given little thought to before we became friends. He didn’t set out to do this, however his commitment was contagious and eventually Lynne and I became involved in some small way either through Jawonio or in sponsoring special services at Temple Beth Shalom. Our daughters Lauren and Randi got involved with Jawonio and it was because of this that Lauren went on to become a teacher of the deaf.

Paul was my confidant and to some degree I was his, as we both confided lots in each other from the good, the great and the not so good.

In addition to his family, Jawonio was his life and for many years he would not let cancer stop him from continuing the journey of building this fine organization to serve as many people as possible. Because of Paul’s continuous dedication, an unbelievable number of people were helped with the challenges they face every day. He was their advocate and his name will always remind us of his tremendous devotion and accomplishments.

Paul’s family was his life and he made certain they always knew it. I knew it as he made me feel like family as well.

What will the world be like without my friend Paul?

  • It will have one less advocate for those in need of help.
  • It will have one less man who put others first.
  • It will have one less husband, father, and grandfather who put his family above all else.
  • It will have one less guy with a wonderful smile and a twinkle in his eye.

And finally, I will have one less friend that I have loved dearly and I know he loved me; as one of the last things he asked me in the hospital was “did I ever tell you I love you?"

Paul was my friend and hero and always will be.

Michael Goodman
Higland Beach, FL 

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WGMom May 20, 2013 at 09:10 am
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Heywood Jablohme May 18, 2013 at 07:17 am
What professional doesn't spend $500 per year on out of pocket expenses related to their jobs?Read More Staples offering 10% (or 5 in some cases) is hardly an example of the community getting involved. Thankfully, there are other examples of the community and PTA's getting involved and providing needed services. Clarkstown and surrounding areas hardly have substantial unmet needs in their classroom, thankfully.
Truth4all May 16, 2013 at 11:37 am
I guess better late than never. LaCorte is serving his 4th year as Mayor and was Trustee for I thinkRead More 4 years before that. This year is the only time he has brought the idea to the village about participating in this program. He is motivated by the opportunity of getting positive press for his County Executive campaign. The village should have been involved in this program ( as well as the Americorps program) long before this. On a positive note, hopefully the Village will continue this worthwhile partnership for many years to come.
Sunny May 16, 2013 at 03:50 pm
Is there an article on patch about it? I am unable to find except on lohud.com
Green Farmer May 15, 2013 at 08:23 pm
Finally!!
b May 15, 2013 at 07:31 pm
Thank God. It's been a long time coming. Finally someone has paid attention.!!! That man has gotRead More to go.
Watchdog May 16, 2013 at 04:37 pm
George, don't you have enough to do straightening out the affairs of Clarkstown. Overtime in theRead More Police Department is rampant and the Town Attorney is out of control. As Tom Nimick says, we need an outside auditor for that operation since taxpayers were abused with the hiring of a political operative Jay Savino who I understand is singing like a canary. Get on the right side George before the FBI comes a lookin" I hear that the Gromack war chest is the first place they are looking for clues. Do the right thing George or you will get trampled with the rest of them.
Tom Nimick May 15, 2013 at 11:12 pm
Congratulations, George. Now about your other responsibilities as a member of the Town Board withRead More primary oversight over budget and expenditures: Won't you be the one to propose the needed audit of the Office of Town Attorney? You know the problems exist - likely you know more about the problems than I do. It is sad to see you silent in the face of the abuse of patronage. When will we hear your voice on it?
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